What makes you vulnerable?
When I’m speaking on stage I feel my most empowered and my most vulnerable. So much could go wrong. That tension is such a rush.
Apologizing makes me feel vulnerable. And strong. Expressing gratitude makes me feel vulnerable. And strong.Maybe there’s something to this vulnerability/strength connection, eh?
What made you create The Desire Map?
This is going to sound rather dramatic, but I felt I was born to make The Desire Map. Yep. Had to get it out. Compelled. You couldn’t pay me to not release it. It’s been incubating for a while.
It all started about seven years ago. I was doing some goal-setting on New Year’s eve and I realized that I had it all backwards. I was going after things for the wrong reasons, in the wrong way. Goal-chasing was burning me out.
Over time I started using what I call my “core desired feelings” to drive my to-do list and big vision. It turned my ambitions inside out. That approach, desire mapping, hit a deep chord with people. I could see the relief when they figured out that inner attunement has to come before outer attainment.
Where do you see yourself in five years?
More in love. Publishing awesome stuff—my own work and that of others. Preaching more poetry. More well travelled. Kinder. Philanthropic. More to give in every way. More cashmere in my closet.
How would you guide the youth of today in hopes of providing a platform of love and honesty?
Dear Youth of Today: You are important, you are needed, you are loved. Your success will be determined by the quality of your relationships with people. Be classy about it all.
Define these words: True Passion.
Do you spend time away from the internet? If so, where and what do you spend your time doing?
Hot baths. Yoga mats. Snuggling.
What do you do to stay balanced? Mind, body, and spirit?
Life balance is a myth. It’s an illusion and the very pursuit of it is driving us crazy. For me it’s about proportion—it’s really a work hard/play hard equation.
I focus for periods of time on creative work and I’m very insular during those times—not a lot of socializing. I play when I want. That means I can take off on a retreat, catch a matinee, make friends. My core desired feelings are my time management system.
When you go to sleep at night, do you feel accomplished that you are making a difference in the world? Tell us about what makes you smile most.
I’m usually launching something or thinking about something to launch, or making the most out of what I launched a while ago. Living to create, with plenty of space for being empty and stuck when I need to be, which is essential for creating.
What makes you smile the most?
My kid having an a-ha and being really proud of himself for it.
What is your guiltiest pleasure?
People magazine with a bag of sour cream and onion chips always makes be feel a bit trashy. But good trashy.